Beating Anxiety: 3 ways to control worrying

In a previous article I highlighted 5 popular beliefs about the supposed benefits of worry. I explained why there is no such thing and how worry only leads to more worry, less emotional maturity, and more entrenched fears. Here I want to finish what I began in that article and provide a few basic techniques… Continue reading Beating Anxiety: 3 ways to control worrying

Beating Anxiety: don’t kid yourself, worrying is not beneficial

Chronic worriers often tell themselves that worry is beneficial. The following is a short list of popular beliefs about the supposed benefits of worrying. 1)      Worry helps me find better solutions to problems. 2)      Worry motivates me to get things done. 3)      Worry protects me from negative emotions. 4)      Worry helps prevent negative outcomes. 5)     … Continue reading Beating Anxiety: don’t kid yourself, worrying is not beneficial

Beating Anxiety: how mindfulness affects the worrying brain

Far from being the latest advance in big-gym yoga, mindfulness has been an ancient bedrock of mental health since there was such a thing as mental health. It is perhaps the most historically ubiquitous and thorough-going practice used in combating anxiety and increasing emotional well-being. This being the case, I am fascinated that mindfulness had… Continue reading Beating Anxiety: how mindfulness affects the worrying brain

3 Tips for New Dads: things that will make you a better man, if they don’t kill you first

Some men look forward to having kids all their life. Not me. The thought almost never crossed my mind for 35 years. At 25 I was married and content with life. The wife and I traveled a ton and went where we wanted when we wanted, spending ungodly amounts of money doing it, and answering… Continue reading 3 Tips for New Dads: things that will make you a better man, if they don’t kill you first

The Noble Line: a psychology of ancestry and the quest for roots

Something I’ve been thinking about lately is the notion of what I call "the Noble Line,” i.e. the psychology of ancestry. It used to be that growing up a person had a sense of family roots – roots not limited to one’s immediate parents or grandparents, but roots extending back for generations. When a man… Continue reading The Noble Line: a psychology of ancestry and the quest for roots