3 Tips for New Dads: things that will make you a better man, if they don’t kill you first

Some men look forward to having kids all their life. Not me. The thought almost never crossed my mind for 35 years. At 25 I was married and content with life. The wife and I traveled a ton and went where we wanted when we wanted, spending ungodly amounts of money doing it, and answering… Continue reading 3 Tips for New Dads: things that will make you a better man, if they don’t kill you first

The Noble Line: a psychology of ancestry and the quest for roots

Something I’ve been thinking about lately is the notion of what I call "the Noble Line,” i.e. the psychology of ancestry. It used to be that growing up a person had a sense of family roots – roots not limited to one’s immediate parents or grandparents, but roots extending back for generations. When a man… Continue reading The Noble Line: a psychology of ancestry and the quest for roots

Taming the Emotional Tsunami: Self-Analysis vs. Self-Awareness

What is one to do when emotional pain comes on strong and unexpected? Many people regularly experience a chaotic mixture of pain and pleasure, joy and despair, that makes them ask what the hell is going on? Why do I feel great one moment and completely blitzed by painful emotions the next, and for seemingly… Continue reading Taming the Emotional Tsunami: Self-Analysis vs. Self-Awareness